This is how I explained my views on perfection to my friend tonight…
Its not possible because perfection is the eye of the beholder and the beholder always sees perfect as something they dont have because by definition it is unobtainable. therefore whether you have it or not always depends on whose looking and when searching for perfection we always look at what we dont have instead of what we do
In short we all are both perfect and imperfect simultaneously. meaning that imperfection is perfect. and perfection is not possible. its like the 0 of ideas.
what do you think?
I have found that I have been giving a lot of advice lately. But the words that I keep hearing myself repeating regardless of the listener is this.
What we need to keep in mind is that no one is at fault.
We all made mistakes, every one of us, so its not your fault, his fault or her fault.
We are only human and mistakes happen everyday.
What we need to remember instead is how to improve.
I am not saying that you shouldn’t take credit for your part,
what I am saying is don’t let it destroy you, let it change you.
Learn from this and become stronger.
Beating yourself down or pointing fingers at someone else doesn’t solve anything.
The blame is just so important to people, because we are creatures who always need answers regardless of how irrational they are, we demand the answer that is most convenient or that we blindly think is best which causes horrible feelings to either explode from you or implode you.
We create our own pain because of how strong our need is to blame. Whether you are that person that cries themselves to sleep at night because you blame no one but yourself or your that person who says those hateful words to the one/s you care about because you just want it all to go away so you push it onto them.
It doesn’t matter which one you are, because in the end both hurt everybody. And that is unaviodable.
But you know what, you shouldn’t blame yourself or think less of yourself for causing pain whether that be to others or to yourself because you know what, thats what it means to be alive and to be human. Its a consequence of life that is absolute.
The best you can do is acknowledge, apologize, learn, and work harder to make a better tomorrow. Destruction whether internal or external is never the answer.
We need to learn to stop blaming and start fixing.